As the exam is now over for 12th std and will end for 10th std, the news of Suicide by 10th Std and 12th Std student will be shown in the media and newspaper under the heading of fear of failure. My question to everyone, is it really “fear of failure” or lack of awareness about one’s own self, one’s own ability and poor self-concept development?
Once the student had started with the year that is called the decisive year in anyone’s life, suddenly the focus is totally shifted to only one aspect of the student’s personality and that is, he only studies, nothing else remains. to get good grades in your life. constantly under the close watch of parents, society, and now also added pressure from the media. They each have a very genuine reason for this to care about themselves and their future. Students act like Robert all the time running from one class to another class, if not class, then in some tuition, homework, solving questions from different years, from class, and many parents also ask them some questions and they are all the time doing class work, or homework from tuition is like 24*7 all the time studying and if they don’t it’s not accepted by their parents the ‘should’ and ‘must’ are so strong that they create the very narrow boundaries around the student that they cannot cross until they rebel against their parents.
Everyone is dyed in a single color, the color of docking, solving papers and doing nothing but studying. The parent uses standard 10 and standard 12 as a reason for not attending the social, any family function, if they happen to make any adjustments, they have attended the function, the only question the student is asked is how are the studies going? That with a list of solutions of do’s and don’ts, as if the whole personality of a student is just being a student enjoying something, it is treated as a sin committed by the student because the reason it is “all life is to be enjoyed”. so hold on to that” it’s an unwritten rule that “you have to get good grades” the total value of a student is reduced only to the percentage of the student who gets the final exam nothing else is left in their idea of self concept all this is just a race to get good grades.How far can a student go in the competition.
We are worried about the asteroid coming and colliding with the earth and will destroy the earth in 2036 but the near destruction we are causing to our future generation is just overlooked if the trend continues then we may not have a good human race to live. until 2036. I feel like the generation we are raising today has become just students, their childhood has taken over the student neighborhood in the whole student neighborhood game, each one more loser each time I see the generation that just passed your 10 and 12 standard. You could easily equate this situation with a horse race when everyone focuses on a single quality of the raspy voice, that is, running, running to the last breath of your life and, paradoxically, running not for you but for you. because others want you to run. you feel that we are doing the same with our children. They are also running in a race of ambition created by their parents, running without a purpose decided by them with no idea what to achieve after coming first or winning the race, many of them win the race but not all of them are capable of doing so. be a winner in the whole race.
Everyone that was all along giving them attention is now coming back to them, everyone is now empty to them, no one theirs to listen to, and so far never exposed to any other skill from their own studies. unique and most important aspect of your life. Now suddenly there is a total change in the whole scenario, life has gone meaningless and he finds himself worthless, so unable to cope with society that the poor boy is not able to handle, and finally “commits suicide”.
Is it a “fear of failure” on the child’s side or on the parent’s side?
If this student is well aware of his own potential in advance, is well equipped with objective information about the career, the parents and the child mutually select the path that the child will follow in the future and will prosper comprehensively, then this competition will not will swallow more life.