What are the signs? Does your spouse cheat on you or not? Any unusual behavior can be misinterpreted as a “sign” of a cheater. Of course, there are some spouses who are more likely to cheat than others and the signs are surely appropriate, but some spouses just don’t cheat. He understands that when we look for signs of a cheater, we’re sure to find them, but let’s assume our spouse isn’t cheating on us.
For this article, I’m going to use the supposed signs of a cheating spouse to show how easily we can be influenced to believe something that may or may not be fact. Is your spouse cheating on you or just appears to be cheating on you?
Signs that your husband is NOT cheating on you
1. Stays up late
You stay up late working overtime at your job because you have to work harder, longer hours for all the new clothes, furniture, cars, boats, houses, and other things you’re buying for the house and entertainment. Or maybe he’s staying up late with his friends, which doesn’t necessarily mean he’s cheating or even looking to cheat. If in doubt, just ask. If he says he’s not cheating, then give him the benefit of the doubt.
2. Strange numbers on your cell phone
He has unknown numbers on his cell phone because he has many contacts for his work. Just because her husband has strange numbers you’re not familiar with on her cell phone certainly doesn’t mean she’s cheating on you. The best she can do is ask you directly who the numbers belong to or call them yourself. Be careful though, a woman can talk back and you can take it as more than innocent.
3. Start dressing better
Instead of wearing his usual khakis or sweatshirts when he goes out, he now wears more formal attire and makes sure his hair is combed and clean-shaven. He starts to dress better because he is prouder of himself since he married his lovely wife. He wants to look good for his wife and his family. Is there nothing wrong with that?
4. You asked him if he was cheating on you
You asked him if he was cheating on you and he said no. Is it hard for you to believe? So that? Sometimes we want to believe something so bad that we find reasons to believe it. If we keep bombarding our minds with the signs of a cheater, we start to believe that our husband is cheating on us. It’s strange how the mind works, but it’s true.
– Signs that your wife is NOT cheating on you –
1. Clicks away from the website when you enter the room
He quickly gets rid of the website he was looking at when you walk into the room because he doesn’t want you to know that he’s looking at YOUR history files to see what you’ve been looking at. She was controlling you. Why do you think your wife needs to do that? What have you been doing?
2. Pretty dresses for others
Women love clothes and they love to dress up when they go out. Here’s a secret you may not know yet. Most women don’t dress for other men, they dress for themselves to feel good about who they are. It’s hard for a man to understand that, but that’s how it is, so leave her alone. Just because his wife wears sweatshirts at home and dresses pretty when she goes to work or out doesn’t mean she’s having an affair. Let your wife dress up and look good when she comes out of it, don’t steal her femininity from her.
3. Spending too much time in the gym
Why does she spend so much time at the gym that you start to feel like she met another guy at the gym? Are you dating someone else? No, she didn’t meet another guy at the gym. She wants to get in shape for you. She spends more and more time in the gym because she notices the great results it produces. Why don’t you go to the gym with her and let all the single men watch them take her for her?
4. You asked him if he was cheating on you
You asked him if he was cheating on you and he said no. Is it hard for you to believe? So that? Usually when we are suspicious or jealous it is because we do not trust ourselves. It is strange how what we do not like about ourselves, we will see in the person we marry. For your own well-being you need to trust your wife and stop finding reasons to mistrust her.