When your husband wants space, it’s easy to imagine that divorce is in your future. It’s hard for a woman when the man she’s married to tells her that she needs some distance, space, or time. Naturally, we come to the conclusion that she doesn’t love us anymore, but that’s not necessarily the case. How a woman handles herself during this difficult time will determine whether her marriage thrives and becomes stronger than ever or whether she slowly withers and dies. If her husband has told her that she needs time, there are some crucial things she needs to do to make sure he doesn’t end the relationship for good.
Our natural instinct when we feel like something is slipping away from us is to fight with everything we have to get it back. That can be said of a woman who loves her husband but feels that he is moving away from her. You may feel inclined to continually ask her to talk to you about how she feels. It can feel so overwhelming that you end up arguing with him because you’re so persistent in wanting to know what went wrong in the relationship. This will not help you emotionally draw him to you. It will only serve to drive him further away from you. What you should do when your husband wants space is give it to him. Respecting his needs and wants is essential during this time.
It is also important to consider your changing role within the marriage. It is very easy to point the guilty finger at your spouse when the marriage is falling apart, but that is not constructive in any way. When your husband needs to get away from you, use that time to think about the woman he was when they married, compared to the woman she is now. Have you neglected your husband since the children arrived? Have you unloaded on him your frustrations for financial or work issues? If you are guilty of this, you have to change now. Very often, men withdraw emotionally from their wives because they feel abandoned or taken advantage of. You must tell and show your spouse every day how much you truly value him as a part of her life. She starts doing things for him that you know will make him smile. If he really feels that he is of vital importance to you, he will help him open up to you again.