If you believe that raising a child brings you to the closest
Starbucks for a double espresso latte, try being a father of two. See if you can relate to this article on parenting:
The day my twin daughters were born was the proudest day of
my life. I was a celebrity in the hospital while recovering
of my work. Little did I know that the days, months and
years ahead would make me cry, scream, threaten and
sometimes regretting having brought these children into the world.
I was a young mother fresh out of college with a bright future.
and big plans. When I found out she was pregnant, I put
some of those big plans on hold to become the perfect
father of my perfect little angels. I spent the first four years of their lives attending
at his ever whim. We went to parks, arcades,
the zoo. We participate in all Mom and tot activities
at the YMCA. It was a wonderful time for all of us.
The problems started in high school. One day I
visited the school, unannounced, checked in at the office
and was allowed to walk through the school to find my precious
dear What I found was not one but two “little sluts” dressed
in skintight jeans with mascara and eyeliner so thick
they looked like twin raccoons. He was mortified and ashamed.
They weren’t just changing clothes when they arrived
at school, they were changing their behavior. Their
The behavior was not good. My little darlings were out of control.
He was alive. That night my anger could not be controlled.
I threatened them. I yelled at them and cried. It was
this moment that I regret having brought them into the world.
For the next week, I barely spoke to them. I did
I did not prepare food for them or provide them
any spending money for your little extras.
Not know what to do. at work next
day, I cried on my friend’s shoulder. she drove me
to a breakthrough that changed everything
of our lives. A summary of some of the things.
she told me that i still use it to deal with my kids.
1) Do not try to be friends with your children
but treat them as if they were your friends.
Always be the father. father of your children
with respect and valuing their opinions. Don’t yell at your friends, no
scold or threaten them. constructive offer
What. Always try to disguise your tone and
the words you use with a true concern for their
feelings.
2) The key for your children to listen to you
for you it is – listen to them.
3) Always know who your friends are. Do it
a point to observe your children with their
friends. You will get a better perception
how your children behave when you are
not around.
4) When your children talk about what
friends are doing…really talking
about themselves. Offer advice as if
you’re talking about your friend… not them.
5) Build a relationship with each child
individually and then collectively.
6) Teach small acts of kindness These kind
thoughts and actions accumulate over time.
Kindness forms a shield around the relationship.
for the hard blows that are sure to come.
7) Requires that they engage with a
extracurricular activities. Then do the
same demand of yourself to get involved
With your school, activity or club.
Being a parent requires work. The challenges
and conflicts in our parent-child relationship
It didn’t change overnight. But the conflicts
decreased and our relationship changed
for the best.